FINALLY an OOTD post!

Well Hello from Canada - thanks for all the positive feedback from my last post. My brother just gave me some fantastic advice - stop caring what others think, because they don't care about what you think - its tough love but hes right I will never see these people again - so if they want to be idiots better let them get on with it. I will NOT stoop that low.

Ahhh so onto my very first Outfit of the day - I said OOTD today to my husband and with a confused expression asked "what is that?' I told him what the abbreviation was for and then went onto say that what we do in the blogger-sphere. So he gladly took these (not too shabby) photos of me. 

I am a photographer so I know what looks right but its SO hard when your in front of it but I kind of enjoyed the break! I'm sure I can sneak one of him on here too because we both dressed so nicely hehe!

So I hope this is the first of many outfit blog posts to come - let me know what you think! Follow, join, discuss :)

Dress - EVANS (was in the sale 6 weeks ago)

Shrug - Evans (ages ago)
Jewellery - Vintage necklace from my Grandma and ring from Avon

Hair & Makeup by myself (Hair was learned from Pinterest)

Fat Talk - I'm honest, its GRR time!

So its time for a serious post. I come to Canada to be with my Husband. All in all its hot - yes, I enjoy it here in fact I love it here. Most encounters here have been wonderful - most people even if they have issues with you won't say it out loud, so I have felt more at ease to go out and enjoy things. I am a hermit at times, I like my own space I even like my husband to go out sometimes for my own space and quiet. Then there are times I want out and to go have some fun. This particular (not so clever) evening we tried to pack a load of shopping and then eating and then food shopping all in one evening. Let me set the scene for you. We had hardly eaten all day - we did everything up till the 'have tea' point so we decided to eat at a buffet - STRIKE ONE I get up for some food which I'm dying for because I'm so hungry I hear a group of stupid girls say Oh would you dare to be that size EVER?! then they all giggled every time I walked by - I could handle that, not nice but I'm sorta used to it. I SHOULDN'T be but I am. So I was full by the end of a two plate, soup and small little scoop of ice cream meal - I don't over do it because I just don't want to feel like I am going to explode - fair enough right?

So we go to Walmart for our food shopping (wont be doing that again I assure you) Half way I get tired and because I'm full from the food I am sweating like mad too and feel ill. So Mark says I should go sit down. I do. In a McDonald's. Only 3 people are in there who quickly leave when I arrive...fair enough. I am sat at the very edge of the McDonald's minding my own business not bothering anyone - just catching my breath STRIKE TWO - I then get two idiots Id say young adults early 20's with white shirt vests and caps on come right up to me hover over me making snide remarks such as "whats this Dessert?" then things along the line of piggly wiggly or other stuff under their breath as they sit down BESIDE me not a few tables away right next to me and eat their meal as to taunt me. Laughing too with every bite. WHY? Why did they do that? I just wanted to be left alone. I felt like I was back at school when I got bullied by kids shouting 'belly's gonna get ya" and spitting or shouting other obscene things. I thought I was past that at 16 - I hate it and it really made me want to stand up and either punch the living daylights out of them or say something back. I was numb, I left before they could say anymore - I told myself it wasn't fair I was sick of it I told my husband when I met up with him again that i was going to write about this. Its annoyed me that much that 4 days after it still hurts and annoys me. 

Would it have been acceptable for them to call me a Nigger being black? NO, would it of been acceptable to call me Anorexic if I was thin NO, would it have been acceptable to call me a Lesbo if I was gay NO, it wouldn't NONE are acceptable and neither is calling people fat bitch or hippo, or whatever applicable ANYWHERE to ANYONE. I am the size I am because I have chosen it - sure I'd love to lose some weight for my own health but I will never be what others in the world deem as beautiful. YOU KNOW WHAT - I DON'T CARE. I am beautiful the way I am, I know how to look nice and dress up and to look after myself. I just don't think its anyone else right to judge someone on whatever/whoever they are. I'm not hurting YOU by being FAT - Yes I'm fat - its how YOU respond to it that makes it wrong not the fact that I am. If your reading this and you know you have judged people because of this - really REALLY think about it. Just because our so called 'problem' is on the outside doesn't make it right for you to judge me or anyone else. Instead of trying to make comments to feel better about yourself why don't you try something POSITIVE and make the world a better place - SMILE for goodness sake, break the mould and tell someone they are beautiful or look pretty or if in doubt SAY NOTHING AT ALL. One day your voice will be like it was never heard because the comments are boring and overdone - so better change the tune. 

Thanks everyone for reading I needed to get that off my chest. Bex